Tuesday, August 23, 2011

Sluts Going Back To Philly? I Don't Think So

Sluts Going Back To Philly? I Don't Think So

You may be familiar with the whole act of Slut Walks. It's basically a way to try to take back the word that has been the subject of a gender double standard for a long time now. That is the word SLUT.

As if it's perfectly normal for a guy to be a stud and get the chicks while the woman needs to stay back and wait for her prince charming. It's all really just tragic, though not as tragic as this ass wipe's opinion piece - Read the whole thing:
By Stu Bykofsky
Philadelphia Daily News
Daily News Columnist

THE UNIVERSE BEGAN with a bang, it is said, no sexual innuendo intended.

SlutWalks began with the casual remark of a misguided Toronto cop who in January told students at a crime-prevention talk, "Women should avoid dressing like sluts in order to not be victimized."

Because the overwhelming majority of rape victims were not dressed like sluts, he was wrong and he apologized, but his remark sparked a worldwide anti-rape, don't-blame-the-victim, don't-shame-the-slut movement.

Dictionaries define "slut" as a promiscuous woman, and/or one who is sloppy or untidy. (Up-to-date dictionaries might use a picture of Snooki.)

Why embrace that?

SlutWalk Philadelphia, which attracted more than 500 protesters Saturday - mostly women, mostly in their 20s and 30s, mostly wearing what their mothers would approve - caught fire after a careless column in the little-known Broad Street Review by Philly intellectual/gadfly Dan Rottenberg.

The wrongheaded column managed to blame victims, insinuate that all men are potential rapists and insanely connect the Cairo rape of CBS reporter Lara Logan with a sexy dress she had worn to an awards show in the States three years earlier. His column, for which he abjectly apologized, illustrated his miserable misunderstanding of rape facts.

By coincidence, Dan's daughter Julie was a writer for "Sex and the City," which helped define the sexual mores of a generation. Samantha, Carrie, Miranda and Charlotte were sexually active, but were they sluts? Did they "ask" to be raped?

"So, what is a slut?" I asked Hannah Altman, 21, organizer of the local SlutWalk.

After a pause, she said, "It depends on the scenario," but agreed it is a slur. So why use it? My answer: To attract attention. Call it an anti-rape march? Zzzzz. Call it SlutWalk? Wooo, wooo.

Jill Maier, director of counseling services for Women Organized Against Rape, applauded shifting blame from the victim to the perpetrator, but told me she feared that "the name is so charged it may distract from the message."

She said 1 out of 4 women is sexually assaulted at some point in life, and 70 percent of adult victims know their attackers. Attire rarely figures into it.

An older woman at the rally, with a guide dog, held a sign that summarized the protest: "I was wearing jeans and it was not my fault." She declined to give me her name or to have her face photographed.

Because some of what I write is sure to be mischaracterized by a few, listen: RAPE IS A CRIME. IT'S NEVER JUSTIFIED BY THE APPAREL OR EVEN THE CONDUCT OF THE VICTIM. That was SlutWalk's basic message, and most men would agree, if they thought about it, and I wish they would.

Repeated at the rally was the idea that rape is all about power and not about sex. That's a political statement, not a logical one. If it were solely about power, women would just be beaten, as male victims are, and not raped. Rape is sexual assault, too. Only those living in silos on Group Think Island can't see that.

Saturday, I saw SlutWalk suffering from SDD - Slut Deficit Disorder, with only a few women dressed like "sluts." Organizer Altman was in a T-shirt and denim shorts, declining to "dress up," as she said, skirting the word "slut."

Maybe 5 percent of the women (and 0.5 percent of the men) were in stereotypical slutwear. Gwen Stahlnecker, 18, and Courtney Wilkinson, 19, wore black bustiers, pink bras, tight shorts and fishnet hose to support the cause.

"When do you wear those outfits in public?" I asked.

"Never," they replied simultaneously. "It doesn't feel safe," Wilkinson said.
This is the smug piece of shit that allowed that retarded piece to exist.

The dude looks like he smells of cheap cigarettes, stale coffee and 70's paneling. He's like a much older version of that ugly nerd dwarf from the X-files group of Lone Gunmen.

What a fucker. I mean, why yes, because the overwhelming majority of rape victims were not dressed like sluts. But hey, the guy misses the point. Maybe that's not news worth stuff. As a guy I can say I miss a lot of stuff.

Just look at the following graph and see how bad women have it in society:

Let alone with this double standard that men who sleep around are studs but women who do so are sluts and should be shamed. Not to mention that even those who don't get around but just dress in their own style get this shit a lot.

And even though the chart above has other factors involved such as pregnancy and other women's natures in play, it still is pretty telling that that statistics are that mothers are paid less than childless women, but fathers are paid more than childless men. Maybe that makes me rethink my stance of having kids.

It's also very disturbing to see that marginal market value of a PHD being equivalent to the marginal market value of being a man. That's really fucking stupid as hell. So perhaps this douche bag writing this god awful article quoted should let women enjoy the word slut by taking it back.

Even if I find it a bit strange to try to reclaim the word slut. But that's mostly because unlike the words retard, spic or fagot that were also stolen and used in a negative content along with other slurs, the word slut doesn't refer to something actually existed. It's a concept from the get go that someone was easy to sleep with and really, when we move past the religious prude side, the amount of sex you have shouldn't even be an issue.

Let me go further, the word slut shouldn't exist except as a patriarchal ideological construct. It's like a communist trying to reclaim the act of baby eating.

Obviously Slutwalks are liberal as all hell, but the majority of the people who participate in them are bourgeois and face mostly separate issues than POC & the truly impoverished do; These people would not be allies in the first place, so I don't see how you can critique "slutwalk" without it just being a very basic critique of the very demographic that slutwalk is serving.

For example, the article complains that the organizers of Slutwalk did not bother to mention the black women who were being oppressed in New Orleans during Katrina - well, yeah, obviously... But why would they? Do the black women in New Orleans really need the support of students in Toronto, or any group of white women anywhere? Even if slutwalks were to devote inordinate attention to the issue, it would come across as fake and ridiculous, and nobody would welcome that sort of attention.

All in all, the article is written by a giant moron. Nuff said.

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