LET'S SKIP THE SMALLTALK

LET'S SKIP THE SMALL TALK

I'm sure that at this point in the Holiday season, you have already been to several festive parties and have mingled with the likes of your friends and families. Though by now I'm sure one thing is certain, you still don't know much of anything about who they really are or anything beyond the surface of the stupid pointless banter that most folks get into at a party.

We should change that. We should outright stop with the small talk. That shit is useless and pointless to no end and we should be diving deeper into the real heavy shit, because it's only when you know about someone more personally than how their day was, will we figure out how to communicated with one another on a different level and relate to whatever the hell it is that the person is actually going through.

Forget the superficial small talk bullshit. If you ask "how are you" to someone, you should fully expect a real sort of answer. Not some pleasantries that will just cut to a short pointless conversation. Look, here's some things you can ask of someone and still be okay without going to deep but actually looking like you give a fuck about their life and not just want to kill some time before someone you know shows up and you walk away.

Consider these as the starting point to a conversation with a stranger. Be it at a Holiday party or just in public when you're sitting near someone.


1. What's your story?
2. What absolutely excites you right now?
3. What's the most important thing I should know about you?
4. What human emotion do you fear the most?
5. If you could do anything you wanted tonight (anywhere, for any amount of money), what would you do and why?
6. If you could know the absolute and total truth to one question, what question would you ask?
7. When's the last time you failed spectacularly at something?
8. What do you value more, intelligence or common sense?
9. What is the greatest lesson you have learned from one of your enemies?
10. If you did not sleep, how would you spend the extra eight hours a day?
11. If you had to pick the character from any book, movie, or TV show who is most similar to you, whom would you choose? Why?
12. How different is your job today from what you thought you would do growing up?

Take those out for a spin and see what you think about it.