Thursday, March 19, 2009

You Got 99 Problems, Don't Let Your Guy Be One

You Got 99 Problems, Don't Let Your Guy Be One

I'm going to say it right now. This post is not for everyone. It seriously addresses some of those issues that aren't very pretty to address. It's the seven ton elephant that gets beaten in the room. Today's topic is all about abuse. You seriously shouldn't have to deal with any form of abuse.

It may be easy to say and not so easy to do, but if you're ever in an abusive relationship, just get the fuck out. Seriously. Don't wait. Things aren't going to change and you aren't going to change someone nor should you ever try to. The old saying of "He's just not into you" couldn't be more truer. If you ever are faced with abuse or even a situation that is not kosher with you, do yourself a favor and just leave!

In saying that, let's get it on! I'm going to just start off with a dozy.

Man attack ex to get his tits back
VICTORVILLE, Calif., Jan 29, 2009 (UPI via COMTEX) -- A 28-year-old man who stands accused of brutally attacking his former girlfriend in Hesperia, Calif., was after her breast implants, another man alleges.

Dennis McGill testified Tuesday his former roommate,Thomas Lee Rowley, admitted he wanted to steal the breast implants he gave his former girlfriend, Shanon Perry, the Victorville (Calif.) Daily Press said.

"I'm gonna cut 'em out and get 'em back", McGill said in court, allegedly quoting Rowley.

Deputy District Attorney David Foy of San Bernardino County has accused Rowley of ambushing Perry on July 25, 2006, outside her mother's home

Rowley allegedly stabbed Perry six times in her head and torso during the attack.
The attack also resulted in Perry's breast implants, which Rowley reportedly paid for, being damaged. Perry's current medical condition was not reported, but she is expected to testify during the trial.

The Daily Press said in addition to attempted murder charges, Rowley stands accused of false imprisonment, stalking, burglary and assault with a deadly weapon.
Holy shit. What the fuck is wrong with the world? I know I haven't done my "God Damn It America" segment for the month but I'm just going to save that golden goose for the end of the month so I'm not limited on what I can say God damn to.

Don't buy your mate inflatable life rafts

I simply have to add, why the fuck is anyone buying anyone else fake breast? Here's some advice: If you don't like the size of the tits on the person you are with, find someone else. This goes for women as well. Don't like the size of the guy you're with? Is he packing too much pudginess in his gut? Leave! Do not try to change them.

If your girlfriend is asking for you to buy them fake tits... Leave. Just leave. She'll be cheating on you before those inflated puppies heal from the operation. You may be paying for them but they'll just be having fun with others. It's like getting a new paint job to your car before it sells itself to someone else. Regardless, it's changing someone's "imperfections" that you find in them. Why settle for that? There's plenty of fish in the sea and you shouldn't have to change someone to be with them. Accept them for who they are and what they come with. Let them change themselves.

If you want big boobs, don't buy them!

I don't get this idea. Do guys think that they're just not good enough to attract others that they need a blank slate, someone willing to be made in their personal preference? I simply just don't get it. Just stop it, people! If you need to change something of someone else, don't bother. Let them change themselves on their own dime and most of all, on their own accord. I think I'm a little overweight right now. At the very least I'm not in great shape. But that's something I want to change about myself and I will do so on my own terms. If the person I was dating told me I needed to lose a little weight or that I needed to gain weight, I wouldn't look at it very kindly.

And you women aren't getting off easy on this. Speaking generally, women love fix-er-uppers. You gals love to watch shows like trading spaces, extreme make over, queer eye for the straight guy, flip this house, etc. You love finding diamonds in the rough. You love making that Prince from a popper. Only it doesn't work like that. People just don't change because you want them to. It doesn't work out that way. Love them the way they are and if you can't put up with something they do that bugs you, LEAVE!

Talk about fake breast!

Let me tell you as a guy, we're fucking crazy. Yeah. Don't think it's just you women who are batshit insane. You may be a little wonky for a week out of the month. Us guys aren't immune to that sort of shit.

Like this man who keeps trying to cut off his own penis.

MONROE — A convicted murderer at the Washington state prison complex in Monroe was hospitalized after his second attempt to cut off his penis.

A spokeswoman for the Monroe Correctional Complex, Cathy Kopoian, says the 49-year-old inmate has a history of mental illness and already had amputated much of his genitalia several years ago.

Corrections Department spokesman Chad Lewis identified the inmate as John Forrester.

Forrester apparently used a razor blade to cut off what remained on Thursday. Kopoian tells The Herald in Everett that he was taken to Harborview Medical Center in Seattle with serious cuts to the groin. His condition was not immediately available Thursday night.

Kopoian says prisoners are permitted basic necessities — including razors — under state law.

Kopoian says Forrester was convicted on July 1, 1977, for aggravated first-degree murder and was sentenced to life without parole.
Yeah.. talk about fucking crazy. That guy has alot of balls cutting off his own dick. Then again, he doesn't have much of anything else now, does he? Reasons are for pussies. Maybe it's just a bunch of alcohol that's causing this sort of crazed epidemic. Speaking of drunken mad men;
They found him walking along the freeway
all red in
he had taken a rusty tin can
and cut off his sexual
as if to say --
see what you've done to
me? you might as well have the

and he put part of him
in one pocket and
part of him in
and that's how they found him,

they gave him over to the
who tried to sew the parts
but the parts were
quite contented
the way they

I think sometimes of all of the good
turned over to the
monsters of the

maybe it was his protest against
this or
his protest

a one man
Freedom March
that never squeezed in
the concert reviews and the

God, or somebody,

~Charles Bukowski - "true story"
Then there's the cases were guys are just bat shit insane without the poetic-ness that made Bukowski the well versed character he was... like this situation where a Tarzana stripper was doused and set and on fire.

Having been on fire and has the leg scars to prove it, it's not pleasant. I woke up in cold sweats after the fire because of the amount of pain it caused. Shit, I still have a bit of pain on cold days in my leg. Thank god they captured the sick fucks behind that.

Perhaps I just don't get it because I don't get strip clubs. You pay money to see someone naked? Hey, let me go to a bar and pay them to pour the drink into the glass and have me NOT enjoy it. Yeah, I guess I'm just so full of logic that I don't get the point of it all.

I'm not sure where I found this picture or why it exist.
I figure I wont have anywhere else to use it.

Then we get to the bigger situation. The Chris Brown/Rihanna situation. I've been holding my tongue on this one for a bit of time. It's one of those sensitive topics that you really don't want to talk about. Mainly because everyone else is talking about. Like I've avoided giving that octo-mom any more attention she surely doesn't need.

So what's there to be said? Chris Brown beat the leaving shit out of Rihanna. You can read the entire police report here. Around page 8 is when you start to drop your jaw at this shit.

The cliffnotes of that is that she saw his text message from an ex and questioned it. He was having none of that and got all upset trying to kick her out of his car. She couldn't get out and sure enough, he started beating her in the car. Holy fuck, if you thought it was just a beating, the detailed report would make you sick to your stomach. Is having the last name brown strongly correlated with beating your celebrity girlfriend?

Why she goes back? I do not know..

But hey, a couple of weeks later and they're back together. Yes, that's right. They are back together now.

The pair have reunited almost three weeks after Brown, 19, allegedly battered the "Umbrella" singer on Feb. 8, a source tells PEOPLE.

"They're together again. They care for each other," says the source. The on-again couple are currently spending time together at one of Sean "Diddy" Combs's homes, on Miami Beach's Star Island.

Adds the source: "While Chris is reflective and saddened about what happened, he is really happy to be with the woman he loves."

In its latest issue, PEOPLE reports that Brown called Rihanna on her 21st birthday one week ago. "He called to wish her happy birthday," a source told the magazine. "They've reached out to each other. It's been mutual."

Brown was booked by LAPD for making criminal threats but the case has not yet been presented to the District Attorney, who will ultimately determine which charges, if any, will be prosecuted.
"but......he loves me!!"

Honestly, I'm not surprised. Women are very strongly attracted to men like this, even if they beat the shit out of them on a regular basis. It's true. Sometimes people get a sort of Stockholm syndrome when it comes to abusive relationships, but men do it too. It's just normal human bullshit.

But you get what you ask for. If Rihanna wants to go back to that abuse, she can. She's an adult and she's high-profile enough to not need society to be concerned for her safety. Especially if she's going to do something as stupid as go back to such an abusive relationship. I'm content to shrugging this one off, personally.

Oh google, you're such a card!

Rihanna is a great role model for teenage girls. Thanks to her example, they know that it's okay if your boyfriend beats you as long as you're pretty sure he loves you a bunch. Actually, teen girls don't need her help. They're already so entrenched in the mindset that domestic violence is ok that they blamed Rihanna when the original story broke.

Many teens blame Rihanna, say dating violence normal 1 in 10 teens suffer abuse in romantic relationships, and many think it's often justified.
Ed Loos, a junior at lake forest High School, said a common reaction among students to Chris Brown's alleged attack on Rihanna goes something like this: "Ha! She probably did something to provoke it."

In Chicago, Sullivan High School sophomore Adeola Matanmi has heard the same.

"People said, 'I would have punched her around too,' " Matanmi said. "And these were girls!"

As allegations of battery swirl around the famous couple, experts on domestic violence say the response from teenagers just a few years younger shows the desperate need to educate this age group about dating violence.

Their acceptance, or even approval, of abuse in romantic relationships is not a universal reaction. But it comes at a time when 1 in 10 teenagers has suffered such abuse and females ages 16 to 24 experience the highest rates of any age group, research shows.

In recent years, some schools and youth organizations have started educating teens about the dangers of dating violence. Rhode Island and Virginia have adopted laws requiring such instruction in the public schools.
If that shit doesn't make you shake your head and wonder what the fuck is wrong with society, I don't know what will. But I can't say this is just a female thing. You'll find that women are just as abusive as men. The difference is in the way it's carried out. Abuse towards men aren't as physical, but I'm sure you'll see a lot of beaten men. No, it's typically emotional by nature.

This joke makes itself. Fuck you internet for making it so easy

The best example of this sort of abuse is when a Women falsely accuses their boyfriend of rape or abuse. Police favor women in this situation. That glass roof may not shatter but the stereotype of the defenseless woman works in their favor when they're looked on as the victim.

How about the threats to deny custody or to take half of everything when the marriage ends. Then there's the stigma that men would be pussies or looked down on by society if they report an abusive wife. Men and women are equally prone to abuse they just go about it different ways. You can see the ratio of active, physical murders of men vs. women, compared to the passive, poisoning murders of men vs. women.

If there's one lesson I can share from experience is that you should not settle. Never put up with abuse. Keep your head low and push on through till you are truly happy. Really really happy. Don't settle for anything less. Especially if the person doesn't have the personality or the features that you want. Don't think you should just cash in your chips and be content with that, you're more than likely not going to come five years down the line.

Don't put up with abuse. No reason why anyone should have to deal with being abused. Which leads me to stop abusing you and end this blog already.

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